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12/27/2000

Your site had a profound effect on me.  I started crying.

Having 2 daughters and 3 grandchildren, I cannot imagine the grief you must feel.

The loss of my mother & father caused me severe problems even though they were of advanced age and had many health problems.  I should have been prepared for their deaths because of their age and physical condition.  I think that many people have more of a bond with their children.

I wish you the best!
12/08/2000

Scott Reddy was murdered on 11/18/00, by "lefty" Griegos.  Anyone knowing anything about this is encouraged to call the AP as soon as possible.
11/30/2000

Hello over there I am from the Crime Victims Support Association in Melbourne  Australia" the land down under" yes we have the same sort of problems here as you have over there, we are currently looking at setting up a site, so after xmas we will be able to exchange ideas We think your doing a good job cheers

Noel
11/27/2000

Yah-ah-teeh (Hello) NMSOH,

Whenever the loneliness and sadness of loosing my daughter gets to me, I find solace and comfort in NMSOH. My oldest daughter and Daddy's girl, Elouise "Wee-Zee" Charley, was murdered in 1997. So the Holidays are especially painful for me and my wife. There is very little joy, only the loneliness, sorrow, missing her and hoping... We buried her on Christmas Eve. Wee-Zee had everything to live for, a good job as an EMT, a volunteer firefighter and a member of the local Search & Rescue Team. All this was abruptly taken from her and her family December 19, 1997. With her tragic and untimely death, our future was also taken from us.

If it was not for NMSOH and the many wonderful people it is made of, we would have been totally lost. We are truly of a kindred spirit and know each others' feelings through the sad experiences we all had to endure.

Thank you.
11/04/2000

I like your site, I think it will help a lot of people and hopefully catch a few of the criminals.

My father was murdered on Christmas day, the people did go to prison, however they were released nine years later due to a error in the Justice system. The next year my Uncle, my dads younger brother was murdered. He was missing for eleven months from Benson Az, his truck was found in Mohahans Tx, the people who murder my dad lived in Crystal City Tx (surprised) no one was ever caught for his murder. He was a SP railroad worker.
At least we can vent our anger here and talk to other people that understand our feelings.

Thank you
Della
01/12/2000

Although, we are not in the same state, we absolutely love your web page. You have wonderful information, beautiful poems and heartfelt memorials. We have your link on our webpage and have gotten so many responses from your site about how it is so special to them... Keep up the good work!
 
Thanks,
Survival Inc. staff
03/14/00

you guys this is good that you have this here i have a lot of respect for you guys who made this page. i hope that every person who has died finds justice, not in themselves but so that the people who did it, WILL be injusticed. 

thank you for the time.
sincerly
ashley
06/15/2000

To the web master your site sure is  very nice I also lost my 35yr old son to homicide in 1993 , as any one can tell you our grief is devastating you are never the same person. I am just now starting with another friend whos husband was murdered a homicide group .there is only 2 that we know of in canada, the websites and email have been a lifesaver for me .I live in a city that has one murder every 2 or 3 years so we are very lucky here .there is a webmaster that has donated a web site to us we are not up and running yet I hope in 2weeks i hope it is as nice as yours My name is Marge and I'm from Brandon, Manitoba, Canada,  keep up the good work all the best         Marge  
07/03/2000

your site has been really helpful with a lot of my questions, thanks again,

andrew bailey
03/06/2000

Dear Webmaster,
    I can't tell you how sorry i feel about these people. Long ago there were people who could not think by them selves and when they did the thought about hurting other people. Or so they would not sufer they would take it out on other people. Sorry again.
                    Jennifer Ohio
07/19/99

$25,000 REWARD!!!!

TEN YEARS AGO, JULY 16, 1999, OUR DAUGHTER, KAITLYN ARQUETTE, 18, WAS GUNNED DOWN IN HER CAR IN ALBUQUERQUE IN THE AREA OF LOMAS AND BROADWAY.  KAIT'S MURDER HAS NEVER BEEN SOLVED.  

DETECTIVE DON MAYHEW OF THE NEW APD COLD CASE SQUAD HAS ISSUED A STATEMENT THAT HE CONSIDERS THE UNSOLVED CASE "CLOSED" AND THE COLD CASE   SQUAD "IS NOT GOING TO LOOK AT IT."

WE KNOW KAIT'S MURDER WAS NOT A RANDOM DRIVE-BY SHOOTING.  WE KNOW THERE ARE GOOD PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO KNOW WHAT HAPPENED.  LOYALTIES CAN CHANGE IN TEN YEARS, AND INTIMIDATED PEOPLE CAN GAIN COURAGE. OUR FAMILY WILL PAY $25,000 (THE CONTENT OF KAIT'S COLLEGE FUND) FOR NEW INFORMATION LEADING TO THE ARREST AND CONVICTION OF HER KILLERS.   WE GUARANTEE CONFIDENTIALITY.

INFORMANTS CAN WRITE TO US AT P.O. BOX 27187, ALBQ., NM 87125 --

E-MAIL US AT <duncarq@interpath.com> --

OR PHONE OUR PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR AT (505) 243-2222.

DON AND LOIS ARQUETTE (KAIT'S PARENTS)
05/24/99

I found this site by chance and started reading it...it's a lovely idea to list the names of people who have died so they can be remembered.  I looked at this picture...Victoria Ann Soltero...because I have a friend called Victoria Ann and it caught my attention.  I hope so much that whoever was responsible for this young girl's death has been brought to justice; it's terrible to look at this happy picture and realise she's gone.  Anyway, thanks for your website; I've bookmarked it.

Linda
05/11/99

Comments: ONE OF THE BEST SITES I HAVE COME ACROSS.KEEP UP THE GREAT JOB
03/16/99

Referring to the article "A Grief Like No Other"

I found your article to be terribly true.  My 16 year old daughter was shot in the head and killed by her boyfriend two years ago.  The shock of being told of the murder, the newspaper articles concerning both the murder and the trial were unbearable.  I feel a particular anger towards the media.  My daughter's death was labeled the "Bathtub Slaying" or called a "Romeo & Juliet" killing.  She was murdered while taking a bath and left in the water for over an hour.  This seemed to make the story more interesting to the media.  In additon, she had been to a treatment center for teens with alcohol problems and this was exagerated to the point that one article said she had been hospitalized for 2 suicide attempts, which never happened.  My daughter had never attempted or threatened to attempt suicide, but I guess this also played up the Romeo and Juliet theme.  Her murderer confessed that he was planning to kill himself after he killed her so they would be together forever.  He never carried out the part where he killed himself.    At her funeral we had to have guards there to make sure the media did not intrude.  I will never understand the thrill that comes from other people's pain.

Our justice system  was another burden.  Although her murderer confessed within hours of killing her, it still took over a year and a half to come to trial.  Many of the pretrial appearances were postponed repeatedly because the defendent did not feel able to come to court.  I don't know if anyone knows the amount of emotional wear and tear that goes through a survivor as they prepare to go to court, see the person who killed their loved one, hear the details and the arguments of a trial.  To prepare yourself over and over to have things postponed due to our legal system was painful and baffling.  When the trial date was finally set, my family were told to only come to the trial if we could show no signs of silent grief.  We were particularly discouraged from coming to court on the days that physical evidence from the murder and the medical examiner was called to testify.  We came anyway.  We needed to come on those days, because much of the information regarding the actual murder was withheld from us.  We needed to come because this was the last part of her life.  We were told over and over when we asked questions or made requests that since the OJ incident the police had to be careful not to let any information out that could be used in the trial.  This lack of any real knowledge of the murder made the situation much more painful and increased the feelings of no control.  It also made me feel as if she was no longer my daughter and why did I feel the right to know any more than the rest of the public.  I was told that the crime of her murder was against the state and I had no say in any of the events that followed.  Many of my daughter's possesions were never returned, and probably never will be as they are considered evidence and there has already been an appeal filed.  The trial itself seemed like a game.  The lawyers would chat and laugh before the trial started.  The defense attorneys waved hello to me and my family.  Did no one realize the pain we felt, the seriousness of my daughter's death?  This was not just another day at the office to us.  Our lives had been shattered and will never be the same.

Two years have passed, and we are all surviving, some days better than others.  I think I am learning to cope with my loss.  I can put my pain aside to the back of my mind and only let it out sometimes, not every minute of every day.  Although a day never goes by without anger, sadness and memories of her.  She would be 19 on the 18th of this month and I do MISS HER.

Cindy Brady

01/28/99

To whom it may consern:

       I read the poem I did not die today and I remembered something very important. See, I am 16 years old and I lost a classmate of mine almost two months ago. He was very special to a lot of people and is still missed very much. I finally brought myself to go and visit his grave on Monday along with three of my other friends. I was looking around when my friend told me to come over and read a poem. It was I did not die. That poem really has put an ease to a lot of people's pain and grief including mine. I just thought I would let you know that.

Thank you.
Amber
01/26/99

Name: Elly Rossi
Email: LERossi@aol.com

Comments: I am starting a chapter of Parents Of Murdered Children in San Bernardino County, California.  I have been reading your site and I just want to say you people are great.  It is a comfort to me to go to your page and it gives me strength in my   endeaver.  My first meeting will be held next month.  It has been a lot of work but it is something I feel in my heart I must do.  Those of us who have lost loved ones need to support each other. 

My kindest regards, Elly Rossi
01/21/99

Name: Alison Salloum
Email: alison.salloum@gte.net

Comments:

This web site is excellent. It has so much useful information that often takes hours of hassel to find.  I live in New Olreans and work for a non-profit called Children's Bureau.  In 1990, we developed Project LAST (Loss and Survival Team) to offer thereaputic/supportive services (at no charge)to survivors of homicide.  It would be great for the people in our community to have a site like this. I will start letting people know about it.  Also, after working with the project for four years, I published a workbook specifically to help children who are survivors of homicide.  It recently recieved the parent seal of approval award.  This is good news because this recongintion will help spread this resource.  It is published by Centering Corp., a non-profit grief resource. If anyone wants more information about Project LAST or the workbook, please contact me.  Thanks again for this site. 
01/21/99

I AM VERY SAD THAT AN EVENT LIKE THIS IS CAUSING ME TO WRITE..... GOOD LUCK AND/OR GODSPEED HELPING YOU TO FIND THE GUILT PEOPLE...THE FAMILY OF THE PEOPLE AFFECTED BY THESE TRAGEDIES ARE IN MY PRAYERS
01/06/99

Dear NMSOH,
I will be adding a link to your bear-fetish page from my webpage on adolescent bereavement.  Although we are focusing on opposite bereaved groups in the parent-child relationship, you may find my website to be of value.

Yours,
Patricia Barlow-Irick
01/06/99

Email: Rigsby333@aol.com

Thank you, for giving me a calm place that I can turn to should I make that choice. When loving is not so hard,I have a choice. Thanks for allowing me the control to click off when loving is too hard to bear, and I could not otherwise walk away. In your website, I can find peace in knowing that I have fellow members who know what I am feeling. I do not have to hide or pretend to feel something I do not.  Thanks for helping me cherish the memory of my brother--Kirvin Templeton and the admiration he added to my life.  I am so proud to hold my head up high and let the world know that "Fella" was my brother and I loved him and he will always, always have a special place in my heart, and a prayer on my lips.  Thank you Roswell members, Dana, and Edward for making me a stronger person for myself and my family.  Pull the group back together you guys do make a difference.  Much love from San Antonio, TX.  GOD'S SPEED!
Karen Kafka.    


 

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